Through my service as a Bishop and Stake President the past several years I have counseled with hundreds of people dealing with marital, parental, suicidal, depression, self-esteem, and separation anxiety challenges. The number of those battling pornography and numerous other addictive behaviors continue to escalate.
My efforts to assist the good people struggling with these difficulties have often included referrals to scores of different counselors and therapists. Unfortunately, after attending numerous counseling sessions and incurring a great deal of financial expense, a substantial percentage of the individuals referred for counseling have not overcome their problems, are still grappling with their addictions and remain dependent upon their counselors.
After being introduced to Dennis Parker I carefully studied his character and counseling procedures and then began referring people to his practice. The feedback and results from those I have referred to Dennis, along with many other individuals who have been referred by my fellow church leaders have been superb. Dennis’ counseling techniques rapidly identify the root problems, teach very effective tools, instill personal accountability and typically resolve the issues in 2-4 visits. His methods are honest, spiritually rooted, fast and economical. He has assisted those I have referred to preserve their marriages, overcome their emotional challenges and conquer their addictions. A rapidly growing group of my young men and women are now serving successful LDS missions that would not otherwise have been able to do so without Dennis’ counseling.
I recommend Dennis Parker, without reservation and would be happy to provide additional information regarding my experiences regarding his results to any who would care to contact me.
John Hollingshead, President
Centerville Utah South Stake
Letter from a Soldier and Police Officer - First Responder
I have worked as a certified police officer for 12 years. I am also a member of the Army National Guard. As a police officer and Soldier I have seen some of the great things along with the terrible.
Following a combat deployment in 2007 I experienced Post Traumatic Stress Disorder that led to times of being alone with my thoughts. Those thoughts would consume my mind with depression. I still have a difficult time to this day of watching fireworks. I have taken lives and have seen fellow Soldiers hurt and killed. The answer for treating the PTSD was medication. In my experience, this did nothing to help. It only took time to overcome some of the memories I have from combat.
I began Positive Mind Management following a police shooting that left a man dead. Sparing the details, I was informed several months later that the County Attorney was considering criminal charges against me. I was an absolute mental wreck. Lack of sleep along with constant crying occurrence during those days. I gained weight and had suicidal thoughts on several occasions. The stressed and reality of criminal charges led to a path of my unknown future. I let my thoughts destroy me and recognized the depression enter into my mind. I would relive the shooting on a daily basis. I had killed men before in the Afghanistan but this was different. This killing was of a man at home and not in a far off land. I was refereed to Dennis by way of a religious leader who wanted to help me control my stress and depression.
Meeting Dennis allowed me to fight against the horrible things I was saying about myself. I went to Dennis with a mindset that I wanted to learn all I could to change my thought process. His plain blunt approach was what I needed. During our time together, he taught me how to identify and fight against “potty” words that brought me down. Dennis was able to assist me in identifying where those suicidal thoughts come from. One important lesson I learned was not allowing untrue things enter past the “Critical Factor Filter”.
Since very little communication was happening between lawyers, I was left to assume many things. My mind began to wonder and think of the worst case scenario. Every time I would leave a visit with Dennis I would leave feeling wonderful inside. We would confront the assumptions, fears, depression, feelings, anger and other emotions to include taking someone life.
I would put forth the effort in what steps we were working on. I kept a journal every day since the shooting and I would reflect on the days that I visited Dennis and the tools he taught me to have a positive mind.
The tools Dennis has taught me saved my life. To this day I constantly think of that shooting. There are permanent effects from that day that I will always keep with me. What will also stay with me are the tools Dennis taught me. I
I know I am not the only first responder who sees horrible things day after day. Suicide is a real thing with first responders and service members alike. Positive Mind Management is something that I cannot put into words of how grateful I am to learn of this tool in my life. To this day, I still fall asleep to Dennis’ voice from his hypnotherapy tape. Thank You, Dennis.
As a bishop counseling with individuals who are battling various behavioral problems, having a resource like Dennis Parker has been a real blessing. From couples trying to make changes for the survival of their marriage, to individuals trying to break free of addictive habits, Dennis has been able to provide an approach to their problems through hypnotherapy that has proven to be both effective and timely. Positive results have come quickly as these individuals have applied the skills they are taught for making difficult changes in their lives. Dennis recognizes the need to couple his techniques with the spiritual counsel for which I am responsible, as we work together to assist these people in overcoming their challenges. I am very grateful for the skill, insights, and sensitivity with which Dennis helps me bless the members of my ward who stand in need of a little extra help from time to time.
Bishop Kyle Naylor
Centerville Utah Canyon Ward
- For more than fifty years as an attorney, an elected public official, and as Chairman of The Lighted Candle Society I have been actively involved in the battle against pornography. I am frequently asked to recommend to parents and ecclesiastical leaders a therapist that I am confident could assist a loved one who has become involved with pornography, become free of its influence and effects. I know many therapists who are well trained and extremely competent. Dennis Parker is the only therapist that I know that has consistently been able to teach a victim of dependency upon sexually explicit materials new mental skills, as tools, that work consistently to desensitize the temptations to be involved in such things. The most important result of Dennis Parker’s therapy is his ability to train the victim on how to overcome the temptation to return to involvement with obscenity.
John Harmer, Chairman
Lighted Candle Society
Hello Brother Parker, the last couple weeks have been absolutely amazing, I have been doing very well and remain true to my covenants, in fact I get my recommend back tomorrow.
I have been transferred to a new area, I am now up in ____________, and it’s really beautiful here by the coast. There are a lot of people here and we have already been able to build up our teaching pool. The work is going very well, we have a baptism scheduled for the 28th, and the ward has been very supportive.
I am really appreciative of the help that I received from our sessions, your book, and CD. I have struggled with my issue for a long time and am now relived to have effective strategies to fight back against the temptations of the adversary. At first I wasn't so sure how hypnotherapy would help me but I quickly learned that this was going to help me a lot with what I was going through and will also help me with later issues in my life.
It took a few weeks to understand and practice the Mind Management techniques, but once I got the hang of things and understood how to handle the situation I was able to put aside and control my old habits. Honestly though, I feel so much better now because I have so much more control over who I am, and what I desire to be. I am much more confident and very pleased with my way of life. It has been an amazing blessing! I know I will continue to read over what I have been taught so it stays fresh in my mind.
I'll keep in touch,
For over ten years I had struggled with a deep addiction to pornography and masturbation. I tried everything to stop, but nothing seemed to work for me. I had gone to see so many therapists and counselors, but they were of no help what so ever. Although some of the strategies they gave me would provide me with temporary relief, it wouldn’t be long before I would relapse again. So after many years of trying to overcome this awful addiction and failing each time, I decided to just simply give up. I knew that relapse was inevitable so why waste so much time, energy, and money if all it’s going to do is set me up for failure? That saying, “once an addict, always an addict” really resonated with me. I believed that I was going to carry this addiction to the grave, or so I thought.
Then I met Dennis Parker, who for the first time ever gave me hope that I could change. But I’ll admit that at first I was very skeptical. I wasn’t sure that hypnosis would work for me. I had never heard of hypnosis as being method to treat addictions. I didn’t actually believe in it to be honest. I believed it was all superstition. The idea seemed so foreign and even mythical to me. I remembered all seeing movies of people undergoing hypnosis and how bizarre and scary it was. But I figured why not give it a try. I mean what do I have to lose? I have tried everything else.
My first appointment with Dennis went very well. He told me that if I apply his methods and teachings that I WILL never look at porn again, or even have the desire to. I thought it was too good to be true. I had been told this many times before. He told me to listen to the CD every night before I go to bed. So I did that. I listened to the CD for the first time and it was AMAZING. After one time of listening to it, I was already noticing a huge difference. My confidence and desire to change grew significantly. I’ve now been listening to it every night for the last three months and I don’t know what I would do without it. The CD and Dennis’s teachings have helped me more than all of the therapists and other programs combined! My friends and family have noticed a big change in me. They have told me that I seem a lot happier; I’m smiling more; I’m not as negative about things. I know a lot of this is because of the CD. I’m not exactly sure how it works, but it does! It may seem a little awkward at first, but just do it and trust me you will see great results immediately.
I’m now on my way to becoming completely free of this addiction, which I don’t see as an addiction anymore, and that is something that Dennis has taught me. He told me that it’s just a result of “stinking thinking” that I have developed over the years. Knowing this has really made all the difference. I hope that more people can utilize Dennis’s teachings.
Thank You Note from a Young Married Woman: she wanted more children, but experiencing emotional difficulties and was not enjoying intimacy or able to become pregnant.
I am forever grateful to you for the tools you gave me to free myself from depression and the counsel and wisdom I received from you to take control of my thoughts and my life. I am amazed at the wonderful year I have had since completing sessions with you. So many things have changed for the better, but expecting a baby, I never could have believed! Our little boy is due ____________, and we await his arrival with great excitement. I have had an incredible - blissful pregnancy and long-awaited (____years) miracle.
I wanted to tell you myself - even though you might have heard through _____________________. And I wanted you to know how grateful I am that __________________ recommended I see you. I am so grateful to you for sharing your unique skills and gifts.
Story from a young man, 16 years old
I’d been sick for about 2 years when we were recommended to Dennis.
Years before that, I had anger management problems to the point of violence and was severely depressed. Through counseling and medication I’ve learned to control myself. About 2 years ago, I fell ill, constantly nauseous and dizzy and devoid of all energy. When it started it was minor, but got increasingly more major and impactful from there.
I dropped out of school and took to hiding from the world, losing myself in video games and other pointless pursuits. I was paraded from one doctor to the next, knowing while I was hurting physically, I was emotionally affected just as much.
Eventually, I got tested for food allergies and between blood and prick tests, I was told that I was allergic to 13 common, major foods such as dairy, corn, and rice to name a few. I could not eat anything outside of the house unless I brought my own food. In general, I couldn’t eat anything appetizing. Those few expensive foods I could eat quickly became intolerable as it became increasingly more difficult to get any other sources of starch in my diet. As a skinny guy already due to genetics, I continued to lose weight and become more skeletal.
We had investigated all avenues of traditional medical treatment. Then we started turning to non-traditional ones. Why not, what we had done to that point was unsuccessful. In the end, we tried hypnotherapy with Dennis Parker despite my concerns and skepticisms, which I made obvious. But, because of how highly recommended he was to us by a family friend, two years ago we decided to take the summer off, travel to his office in Utah and try it out.
At worst, it would turn out not be effective, and I would have enjoyed visiting my grandmother who lived there anyway. But, as it turned out, against all odds, it did work! Thanks to Dennis and him teaching me how to manage my mind as he worked with me, I can now eat anything I want and have done so for the past two years. I have put on more muscle and fat than I ever have, and I am happy and healthy despite my history of difficult personal health circumstances.
More people need to know about Dennis and his innovative positive mind management techniques and protocols utilized in his special forms of hypnotherapy. It was not particularly easy as I had to face many issues in my life and be willing to accept the “truths that set me free”. My willingness and determination to work through these personal issues for a better life with him, changed my life. It has left me happier, healthier, and better than before. Despite your misgivings of what you might think of hypnosis or whatever misunderstandings you may have of hypnotherapy, give Dennis a shot.
Because, for me, when everything else I had done failed, he and his Positive Mind Management Hypnotherapy processes did not.
Mother of four children:
I brought my 5 year old son in to see Dennis because of erratic out of control and very destructive behaviors. As a mom I was at my wits end. I explained to Dennis that he is very angry much of the time. When we entered the office he was being his usual overactive little self. He was climbing all over the place during the first part of our appointment, climbing on me, the chairs, up and down, repeatedly. He would talk out of turn, and was intentionally being disruptive teasing his baby sister. With coaxing, he cooperated with Dennis as he tested his imagination functioning with the Rose visualization and he got it spot on. Once we knew he was functioning correctly in his imagination Dennis went on to teach us some mind management techniques of how to control his imagination and by doing so how it adjusts his emotions. While we were discussing things in response to disciplining him he said “I hate you” to me. He had been saying this a lot and was mad much of the time.
Dennis asked him if he were angry now, and he said yes. He asked him to put his finger on the spot where he felt he was the angriest. My son did so, and then Dennis asked him what was going on in his mind under his finger, the spot where he was so angry? My son said that he was mad his brother and sister! When asked why, “he said because they break my toys and mommy makes me share them, and I don’t want to share them, because they break my toys!”
Dennis challenged him, “Do you really hate your brother and sister, or do you just hate it when they break your toys?” He said, “I love my brother and sister, but I get so mad when they break my toys.” Then Dennis showed him how to move the thoughts, the memory, and the emotion of anger from the place under his finger to another place in his mind of desensitization. He did so and the anger and the experience were desensitized in his mind. It changed from not wanting to share to “maybe I can share my toys sometimes,” to “It makes by brother and sister happy when I share my toys.” Dennis asked him how he was feeling now, and he said, “Happy”, and was finally naturally smiling! “Is the anger gone? Yes, I don’t feel it.”
Dennis observed though that he was still competing with him for my attention. He would keep interrupting us with questions such as, “Can we go now?” Dennis asked him to come over by him and asked him to now close his eyes down and go inside again, and think about what he wanted from his mommy? He did so and said, “I want my mommy to love me more.” Dennis had him put his finger on his head where he felt that he wasn’t loved enough. He did so and then he showed my son how to adjust mommy’s love for him, turning it up, increasing the feeling that he is loved and lovable. It has been six months now after our appointment with Dennis he has yet to say “I hate you” to me.
Dennis showed him how to adjust his emotions, using mind management principles to either turn his emotions up or down, depending on how he wanted to feel. He felt more loved and secure, and then surprisingly he immediately quieted down and all of the hyperactivity left his body. He stopped climbing on everything including me, mom.
He then asked Dennis if he had some toys with which he could play? Dennis gave him some paper and pencil and asked him to draw some pictures. He did so and focused in on the task of drawing him and mommy. For the first time in his life he actually was entertained to draw a picture and drew a picture with detail. I didn’t think he was capable of doing so. His grandmother who was also in the room, said that this was the first time they had ever seen him slow down long enough to focus on anything. She stated that they could never get him to attempt learning numbers or his alphabet, and so forth.
He didn’t pester his baby sister or me for the rest of the time. I continue to work with him at home from what we learned in the session and from reading the book, “Spiritual Mind Management.” It’s his special treatment and he has named it, “head magic”. He comes and asks me to do “head magic” on him if he is emotionally uncomfortable. He even came to me when I was upset at him and did “head magic” on me! My sweet little affectionate boy is back! He still has his moments, and will only work with me on doing “head magic” when he wants to, but he is doing so much better. He knows that he is in charge of his emotions, and now it is a choice to do so.
Sutton Clinical Services
First of all, I want you to know that I was a huge skeptic before I saw your work. I was relating hypnotherapy too much to what you see in the stage shows. At our office we provide counseling to children, adolescents, and adults, most of whom have suffered great traumas in their lives. In many cases, the mental health therapies we were using were not helping them overcome their trauma symptoms as quickly as we would like. When you offered to come to our office once a week, although I didn’t have high expectations, I agreed.
I was so surprised at the rapid and amazing results I saw on that first day. My husband had struggled with guilt and extreme sadness due to the death of his son eight years earlier. This was the first thing he chose to work on. In less than a half-hour his sadness was replaced with a sense of peace and acceptance. The guilt was gone and he was able to think of his son without reliving the trauma of his death. This is just one example, but there are many others just as dramatic.
Thank you Dennis, for opening my eyes to a very useful and effective treatment approach. I have changed from a skeptic to a believer and am delighted with the results I have seen with the clients that you worked with as well as the ones that I am now, working with using hypnotherapy. I appreciate your hypnotherapy school and the in-depth training that you give.
Patricia Sutton, CMHC Sutton Clinical Services
My Journey Through Mind Management and Hypnotherapy
My son came to me sobbing intensely, after being in therapy weekly for about a year, he proceeded to tell me that pornography was ruining his life, it was taking over his life. He was suicidal and so terribly unhappy. I talked to his therapist and he felt he needed something more powerful. I told him, “I’d do anything for my son what do I need to do.” This is when we went to see Dennis Parker.
My son and I were both very skeptical and didn’t really understand what hypnotherapy meant. Dennis soon taught us about mind management. This is it! Mind management is what he needs. I needed to learn more about mind management too. Everything that comes up in life we get to choose how to handle it. Yes, we might have an addiction, but we have to stop and Be Present when making a choice and then really concentrate on consciously making the right choice for ourselves. After my experience with Dennis Parker a big chunk of what hypnotherapy now means to me is mind management and dealing with things that have happened in the past. We must learn from these experiences and then focus on moving forward.
The first thing that my son and I learned is that he and I are Normal. The thoughts, feelings, worries, anxieties, or depression, and so on that, He or I might experience are what others experience also, at one point or another in our lives. What is not normal is allowing these thoughts, feelings, worries, anxieties, or depression, and so on to start taking over our lives so that we are unable to live our lives and be happy. The second thing I learned was about how we talk to ourselves, because consciously when we talk to ourselves we don’t know it but it subconsciously is burned into our habits. We need to always talk nice to ourselves. Third, I learned how wonderful affirmations are. Write down what you want and then change it to what you already are, for example: I want to be happy. –Changes to- I am happy. Make an affirmations list and read it five times in a row and do this four or five times a day, to reprogram your brain. You will instantly feel like a weight has been lifted. This list is always changing according to your needs.
There is so much more that I learned, but these are my top three. Another experience that we had with Dennis that really opened my eyes was when my son during a hypnotherapy session discovered why he had felt so emotionally needy. My son's dad and I were divorced when he was four. The thoughts I had during this time were what is wrong with me?, Why am I not good enough, pretty enough?, Why am I not loveable?, Why did he leave me?, It is my fault., and so on. Every possible negative, destructive feeling and thought I could have, I did have. I was thirty-six years old at the time. What I didn’t realize was that, I was processing all of this pain at the age of 36, but he was trying to process the same pain and thoughts at the age of 4. He had all the same insecurities and destructive thoughts in his sweet little four year old person, and had still been living with them all these years. This realization was excruciatingly painful, no matter what an amazing mom I tried to be and how much love he got from me he still needed to heal.
This experience from when he was little has influenced his thinking about himself in destructive ways. He had so much anxiety about never being loved by a girlfriend, and never being married, or having children, that he turned to video games and pornography which in turn made him more depressed, and suicidal. His negative, obsessive thoughts just took over and he was on a continuous spiral downward. Now that he has been able to acknowledge these feelings he can let responsibility lie where it needs to and he can move forward and take responsibility for what lies ahead.
Today my son has a girlfriend, who loves him, and he loves her. She accepts him for who he is. I don’t know if this is the girl that he will choose to be with for the rest of his life, but he knows that he will be ok. At times he still struggles with things, as he climbs the ladder of life he takes step back once in a while, but the most amazing thing is that he is making progress even if it is just a little progress at a time. He is DOING not just Trying! He will have to work hard and be mindful, and present everyday of his life, but know he has hope. I will always be indebted to Dennis and forever grateful for helping my son get his life back.
Recent Graduate of CHTS tells her story of pain control:
I would like to share some wonderful experiences I have had since learning the simple technique of self hypnosis with Dennis Parker at Certified Clinical Hypnotherapy Training School.
I was scheduled to have foot surgery that I was told would be a very painful recovery. There was even an episode on Dr. Oz that they had said that it was one of the most painful things there was. I began imagining the surgery as a very simple painless procedure. I saw the amazement and felt the excitement at how well I was doing.
When I had the surgery it went without any complication and I did not have any pain. I had told the doctor that I would not need any pain pills. He insisted on giving me a small prescription of 10 narcotic pain pills and said you really might need them. My husband had the prescription filled for me and said it would probably be best to take one and stay on top of the pain for when the block wore off. I went ahead and took one but honestly did not feel that I needed it. I took one more at bed time as my husband thought it would be a good idea to stay on top of it. That was the last pain pill that I took. It has been six weeks and I have never felt the need for a pain pill. My discomfort has been very minimal. People who have had the same surgery are amazed.
I went to the doctor on a follow up visit at about 4 and ½ weeks. I had to have a cortisone injection along the side of my foot up to my toe. If you have ever had a cortisone injection they can be very painful. It is a slow thick solution with a pretty good burn to it. As soon as the doctor said that is what he was going to do, I quickly put myself in trance and went on my beach vacation! I did not have a moments discomfort and actually did not want to have to leave my relaxing state. My husband was with me and was completely amazed. He said, I watched your face the whole time and you never changed expression or had even the tiniest of winces. The doctor asked me a couple of times if I was alright.
I returned for my six week follow up and had to receive another injection in top of my foot. Once again I quickly went into trance and went on another wonderful vacation!
It is so amazing to be able to manage pain with self hypnosis! I am so excited to continue to experience the benefits of hypnosis and be able to help guide others to do the same with clinical hypnotherapy.
Missionary who came home early because of emotional issues:
Are you experiencing “Mind Chatter” those useless negative thoughts we think about our self such as, “I am not good enough, or smart enough to________”. Are you being held back from who you really know you are and want to be by negative beliefs and feeling about yourself and your actions. Listen to a young man Addison Evans tell his story of what happened to him as he was serving a mission for his church and became so plagued with such negative thinking that he ended his service early. Addison Evans shares his story of how he became incapacitated by such an experience and how he recovered utilizing hypnotherapy as part of his recovery. He is now thriving in life and moving forward.
Addison Evans came in contact with hypnotherapy after his church leader and Stake President, referred him to Spiritual Mind Management Hypnotherapy for services.
He explains, “I had recently gotten home from serving as a full time missionary in the Philadelphia mission. During the last 6 months of my mission I began to notice a change in my behavior and the way I felt. Before I was working hard and enjoyed being a missionary. I felt successful with what I was doing in all of my areas. During January 2014 I was transferred to a new area and the work became very difficult. Over the next few months I began to internalize all the negative aspects of missionary work and it began to affect the way I treated myself and other people around me. That’s when my behavior changed. I started to lose my motivation but didn’t understand what was going on or why I had changed. Everything had happened a little bit at a time. After 6 months in a difficult area I was transferred to a new area but held onto those negative feelings and emotions. In a month my emotional stability simply crashed and I began to deal with feelings of nervousness and hopelessness. It got to the point that I began blacking out just going outside and my mission president became very concerned for my well being. He had me take a few stress quizzes and meet with someone from LDS family services. While I was appreciative of the help I received from the services, I never felt like I was able to get to the root of my problems. I thought that what the counselor said about what caused my problems made sense but I always felt that there was something more to it. I felt that the counseling was needed to help me make it week to week or day to day but in the long run, I knew I needed something else in order to be better independently.
Eventually my mission president gave me the option of returning home six weeks earlier than my release date and I decided to do that in hopes of getting better. I didn’t know what to fully expect on my return home. My family life had changed and I had decided to move in with my Dad. My parents divorced when I was 18 months old and I had always lived with my Mom. I wanted to pursue a relationship with my Dad while resolving my problems. Adjusting to post missionary life can already be difficult on its own when moving back to the home you grew up in surrounded by the same people. But I was in a new environment, with new people I wasn’t familiar with, with no clear direction on how to get better. Normally I think that would cause anyone that was dealing with those emotional problems to crash again but it was exactly what I needed. I had always let my environment and the people around me influence the way I felt and behaved. But because of the new mental skills I’ve learned from hypnotherapy, that’s no longer the case. I’ve learned how to change my way of thinking to allow me to be in control of my emotions and behavior no matter what’s going on.
Addison B. Evans
Medical staff worker and mother:
I have suffered from migraines since my early 20s. About seven years ago they got so bad I had a migraine almost daily for over a year. I had all of the tests done, MRI, heart bubble study, CT scans etc.; but nothing showed why I was having such bad migraines. I have been on all of the different prophyl- lactic medications for migraines, as well as acute medications for when they hit. All of the medicines I have taken have had bad side effects, some that I am still dealing with after stopping the medication years ago, and none of them took away my migraines. I have had to just learn to live with them, and occasionally I’ve been so sick I’ve had to go into the ER for stronger medication. But even those don’t get rid of my migraines; just help me sleep so it’s duller when I wake up.
Then I started my hypnotherapy with Dennis. I knew to expect migraines because every time I talked about past emotional problems, it magnified my migraines by at least 10. The second time with Dennis I just mentioned my migraine, so he had us work on that first. He got rid of my migraine that day, which in and of itself was amazing. But I haven’t had one since, which is even more amazing! I haven’t gone this long not only without a headache, but without a migraine, in as long as I can remember! If this were the only benefit to hypnotherapy, it would’ve been enough, but it’s only a small part of the benefits! I would recommend this to anyone experiencing pain, emotional problems, anxiety, depression, low self-esteem… basically, you name it, and you can learn to control it!
A middle aged father of four
To start at the lowest point
I was completely without hope… I had a plan in mind of how to end my life. It would have been easy, accidental looking, with even a feeling that, “He died doing something he loved!” There would have been plenty of insurance money for the kids and wife, I would finally be able to rest from the affliction of pornography and its accompanying ills that hounded me and held me captive for 25 years of my 32 year existence here. While it wasn’t the only reason, pornography was among the biggest contributors to the other two huge problems staring me in the face that I couldn’t resolve; I was in a marriage that was a disaster despite my best efforts, and a business that was crumbling after years of giving it the best I knew how. I felt like my inability to keep pornography in check was the reason my business and marriage were in such desperate straits; I felt like a complete failure!
Except for the day described above I always knew deep within me I was not meant to live like this; I had a higher purpose. I just never knew when I would get through it and I never would have believed how. I am a father of 4 young children, who had tried desperately for decades to make my actions conform to my beliefs.
I hated what I did. I could never figure out why part of me wanted something so intensely that the rest of me hated and punished myself for constantly. I sought help in 12 step groups for years. I counseled with every ecclesiastical leader who had stewardship over me from the time I was about 13. I was more prayerful and studious than 99 percent of people my age. I attended seminary in my teenage years with enough consistency and extra study to letter in seminary. I attended Institute of Religion courses for four years of college, waking up early or staying up late to excel in religion courses as well as in my career studies to graduate summa cum laude from college and with honors from the Institute of Religion.
Outside of religious education I served as a leader in church programs, boy scouting, and FFA club during high school and after high school. I was always asked to lead others when I served a religious mission for 24 months on the other side of the world (as the 12 steppers would say, “I white knuckled it for that entire duration), and when I came home I was unable to maintain abstinence from this dreadful habit. It seemed that the minority of my desires was ruling over the majority. I abstained for nearly a year while I courted and started a marriage, but returned to the dreadful practice after being injured and laid up for several months early in our time together. I again counseled with ecclesiastical leaders and found strength to abstain for 18 months even when my wife refused to be intimate with me for months and even for over a year at a time.
At year 4 or 5 we sought professional help with one therapist who was supposed to be the best at treating pornography “addiction.” I experienced little or no progress in the three or four times I met with him. At year 6 we were referred to a therapist who, we found on good authority, was the very best in our area. He focused intensely on true principles of life and helped me truly believe that pornography is not an addiction but a reinforced habit. I learned later that what reinforced my habit was not at all what I believed it was. Through his counsel I was able to understand all the whys and why not’s and I had nearly a year without incident, but there were close calls and a lot of white knuckling. Part of me still wanted the porn so badly. I spent thousands with this great counselor who helped us make great strides forward as a couple and individually. After my lowest point I tried to go on anti-depressants to get me in a better place and relieve me from the temptations to view pornography. I tried three different medications, all of which made me worse to the point I felt like my brain was burning and all I could do was lay in bed twitching from medication side effects. I still couldn’t be free from this constant temptation.
I blamed my seemingly unconquerable desire for pornography on an early exposure at age 7. I used to believe that the exposure lead to heightened curiosity and lead me to view a lot of pornography over the subsequent years.
I always had the feeling there was something that needed to be unlocked, or unwound back to my childhood that contained the root of this desire. Until I experienced that first hypnotherapy session I didn’t think it was possible to even remember what this was, indeed many told me to just move on, that I would never be able to recall what it was that started this in me. I believed them and tried to move forward without fixing the past.
I was so scared to try hypnotherapy. I thought of the stage performers I had seen, I wondered if I would be looked down upon by my ecclesiastical leaders, I was scared of what I would say if I wasn’t in control of my mind, and perhaps the greatest fear was that it all sounded too good to be true another failed attempt waiting to happen.
I had nothing to lose, my wife had decided to divorce me by this time. I was truly seeking to solve my own problems and fix me so I could move on and be rid of the prison cell of pornography that I kept choosing.
In my first hypnotherapy session (I really didn’t believe that I was even hypnotized at the beginning because it felt so natural) one of the first instances that came out of the session were a couple of memories I had of stealing toys when I was 7 years old. I learned that I had decided to never trust myself because of those actions. I believed the lie that I simply could not be trusted. I found through hypnotherapy that this lie was what was reinforcing my habit of pornography indulgence. As Dennis guided me through the process of learning the lessons I was supposed to learn from those experiences, and making proper restitution for my actions, my desire to view pornography immediately diminished. I became more and more single minded.
In visit after visit more and more layers were removed to clear up lies and misunderstandings I had kept deep inside my mind from my earliest years and even very recent times. Perhaps the most important insight came when during a session Dennis pointed out that the enemy of our happiness speaks to us in the first person to make us believe it is us who wants to do what is contrary to what we know is right and good. That principle has been as a shield to my mind against negative thinking.
The Spiritual Mind Management principles I have learned through this process have allowed me to address a myriad of experiences on my own. I have used the triangular conversation gestalt technique, which really helps me to clear up lies, negative thinking, and interactions with others that have troubled me. I have also used the empty chair gestalt to banish negative personality parts I had allowed enter and influence my personality. I am learning to control my intelligence for clearer thinking and decision-making, and even to enhance my creativity in problem solving at work.
I highly recommend you give this process a chance. It will change your life. You have nothing to fear inside your own mind; you have everything to gain from becoming a unified whole person. I worried at times that this would impact my faith negatively, I have found that I have never been more faithful, optimistic, and hopeful. When I think back on that dark day when I lost all hope and nearly sought to end my life, I see those dark hours served to get me to a place that I could overcome my fears of trying something very different and for me that was hypnotherapy.
C Wtts – My experience with hypnotherapy
Female – Age 25 – Married – 2 kids, pregnant with my 3rd at the time of hypnotherapy sessions
I was terrified of hypnosis and thought it was creepy and didn’t have any clue what it entailed.
the only exposure I’d ever seen of hypnosis was that of entertainment as people in an audience volunteer and go up on stage and proceed to “make fools of themselves ” it was funny to watch but terrifying to ever be a part of.
it’s so much more than just “talking about your problems” it helps solve them and you can implement
the truths you learn into your daily life.
Hypnosis, for me, is a lot of pondering and discovering truths that help me be a better person.
• I’m sure it’s different for everyone. At first, for me, it was about discovering lies I had believed my whole life were true and discovering the actual truth and reprogramming myself to know and believe the real truth. Then the later sessions were about learning techniques to do by myself so I can take what I’m learning and apply it to my daily life so I’m not dependent on this guy the rest of my life but I can learn mind management and how to control my thoughts and mind. It’s really hard to explain in a txt and I don’t want to limit your experience with what mine was. “what I explained to my brother in a txt about my experience with hypnotherapy.
Hypnotherapy has helped me more than any other thing I have tried. People in my life, like my mother for example, have told me they can see improvements and positive changes happening to me, as an outsider looking in, and that means alot to me and made me realize its not just me that is noticing a positive change but people around me have noticed and I like that because I feel empowered and know I can make a difference for good. And as I improve myself it opens the door for others to do the same.
After I had my 2nd baby, I was in a dark place emotionally, I felt so depressed and more times than not I found myself feeling like a failure as a mother and wife. I was so wrapped up in being a mom and wife I forgot who I was as a person. I was desperate for some help but felt hopeless in finding any. Just at that time, I was invited to a “self-improvement” class. I wasn’t told any details but thought it would be a nice break from the kids and I’m always open to becoming a better person and learning new things. Once I got to the class the big projector on the wall, presented in power point form, said something about hypnosis. As I read that to myself I thought, “I’ve got to be in the wrong place. Hypnosis is scary and I am not ok with having someone control me like a puppet, or read my mind! Do I leave? What do I do?
Just then the class began and I decided to stay and if I felt uncomfortable I would excuse myself from the class. I’m so grateful I decided to stay and grateful the Teacher Dennis Parker was willing to educate the public and me on what hypnosis really is and what it can do for you. I loved what he had presented and taught us and after the class I made an appointment for an individual session and since then my life has not been the same. It has improved drastically and I’m no longer in a dark place but loving life. My double minded ness had me so confused and lost but as I discovered the truths, it set me free. free to live my life in the way I truly wanted to. It has allowed me to be the amazing person I knew I was but would too often trick myself into believing I wasn’t. When I would discover the lies and find the truth it always felt so empowering and peaceful. It just felt right. It made sense. I am able to have better mind management skills and it feels good to better myself and keep learning and growing as a person. I am a much happier, wiser, confident woman.
I worked with Dennis during 2012 and I was 37 years old at the time.
Initially, my goal was to improve my self-confidence and self-esteem. What I didn’t realize at the time is how far reaching this work would be.
Prior to working with Dennis, I felt disconnected from my emotions and found it difficult to speak with others. As I worked with him, I was able to feel more connected to my emotions (not to mention feeling free to express them) as well as being more confident in myself to speak to others.
Learning the mind management principles has enabled me to maintain the changes that I have experienced. This has been invaluable to me because there are always opportunities in life to think that I don’t deserve good things or that I am not good enough. These principles have helped me make better conscious decisions and avoid the garbage thinking that was so easy to fall into previously.
What I learned inspired me to be trained with Dennis and it has been the catalyst for me to help many other people overcome their inner problems. The mind management principles have also helped them maintain their changes as well.
I would encourage everyone who is struggling with their personal challenges (whatever they may be) to give hypnotherapy a try. It has been the tool that allowed me to change what I needed to change personally.
To Whom it May Concern,
I have a son who is 23 and has had A.D.D since he was about 4. He has very impulsive behavior and it appears often that he doesn’t have a thinking brain that knows right from wrong. He’s a very good kid who is very likeable and fun to be around. He is currently in trouble with the law and on probation with 2 DUIs in the last year. He is in debt up to his ears and usually avoids an attempts to resolve the debt.
I heard about Dennis Parker from a friend. I scheduled a visit for my son with Dennis and the very next day he organized all his bills and called the bank to arrange the return of the car that they have been trying to repossess for over 6 months. I had been trying to encourage him to do this for the entire 6 months without success and he did it immediately after one Hypnotherapy session with Dennis.
My son mentioned that he feels that the cloud of fogginess has lifted and he feels so much better. Thank you, Dennis, for the work you do to help others using Spiritual Mind Management.
To Whom It May Concern:
Our clinic, Solace Emotional Health, provides mental health therapy for sexual addiction, marital quality, and ancillary symptoms of depression, anxiety, and trauma. Our therapeutic approach with these issues consists of 2 layers: (1) helping the patient develop critical skills to manage emotional surges (rather than being managed by them); and (2) to address the emotional and cognitive undercurrents that often undergird dysfunctional and unwanted behaviors. However, if a troubling or traumatic experience has been repressed, forgotten, or imbedded deeply into a patient’s subconscious, it can be difficult and very time consuming to identify and dissolve the dilemma.
We have found that Dennis Parker’s hypnotherapy, combined with his unique “Spiritual Mind Management” program, quickly identifies unconscious emotional undercurrents, skillfully desensitizes them, and adds an extra layer of emotional management, that provides confidence and permanence to patient’s recovery efforts.
Recently, Dennis worked with one of our patients that had been diligent in daily recovery efforts for several months, but had not been able to sustain his sexual addiction sobriety for longer than a week. In just 2 sessions of hypnotherapy, Dennis helped this patient identify a deeply buried issue, desensitized it, and instructed the patient how to better manage unwanted thoughts, memories, and emotions. To date, this patient has not had a relapse.
Another acquaintance stopped by our clinic, suffering with night terrors and unbearable cravings to relapse (after almost 2 years of sobriety). She had been given the financial approval for 8 sessions at another agency. She agreed to meet with Dennis Parker for a session or two, in an attempt to identify a specific issue to work on, thereby accelerating the effectiveness of her pre-approved therapy program. She had one session with Dennis Parker. In a follow-up phone call, she said, “the nightmares and craving are gone. They haven’t returned. At this point, I don’t think I will need any more therapy.”
Dennis Parker is skillful, effective, and extremely efficient in his hypnotherapy and “Spiritual Mind-Management” approach.
Dr. Jerry Redd, Ph.D., CMHC
Solace Emotional Health
My name is Brandy Brandon and I am a full time student at Dixie State University finishing my bachelor’s degree in Psychology with plans to go on and receive a PhD in Neuropsychology.
In November of 2013, my father sent me a link to a presentation by a man from the Certified Hypnotherapy Training School in Farmington, Utah. I put it off continually believing it would be a waste of my time, I finally gave in the first part of January 2014. After I listened to it, I was intrigued so I looked around on the website and learned that Dennis was currently holding school sessions right here in St George, so I called him up immediately and asked him a few questions, then set up a time to go and attend one of the classes to see what I thought. I was there for one day, and was immediately hooked. I was so amazed by what had taken place and in the short amount of time, that I knew it was for me.I love psychology and how it affects the brain however I couldn’t see myself helping people by sitting in an office session after session accomplishing very little. So when I saw Dennis work through an hour and a half session and seeing a noticeable change in the client when he was done, I knew that I was going to become a hypnotherapist.
I got home and went online to research all of the schools across the country to see how they compared to the Certified Hypnotherapy Training school. There was no other school like this one. The professionalism of the school was far beyond any of the others. The amount of training you receive and the availability of instructors to help you out were just a few things that stood out.
I signed up, but I was only able to attend a few classes while Dennis was in St George so I took the books and began reading Spiritual Mind Management in between the classes I was able to attend. As well I listened to White CD’s for weight management and Self Esteem. I was not prepared for what happened to me. The book gave me a well thought out and easily understood explanation of the process of Spiritual Mind Management. And the CD’s began drawing the issues I was ready to deal with. When I was finally able to attend the summer courses, it worked well for me because I was able to attend the courses on line from 400 plus miles away.
I met so many people, made so many friends and witnessed many transformations including my own right there in the classroom. It was hard work and Dennis was a tough instructor making sure that we knew the material, but more importantly were comfortable using it. He stands behind his process and for good reason, it really works.
I finished my training and became certified through ACHE. I immediately started to have clients call and set up appointments. They were hearing that the amount of time it took to work through your issues was very minimal. I had a client who was finally able to confront the pain in her feet and located the reason for it. Another client is a well-respected lawyer who needed help with his lack of focus only to clear issues he didn’t even know had existed. A lady who learned of her adoption was able to see things differently when she was done. Working with spiritual mind management techniques has allowed my son with autism to see people in a different way than he had before, becoming less offended in social situations and being able to make good friends.
I am a single mom raising 3 teenage boys, one who has autism and an 8 year old daughter. This program allowed me to have more time with my kids as well as help them in their lives. Dennis has continued to be a mentor for me even after my certification was finished which helps with my confidence to continue to do this great work and help people everywhere.
- "I've been to various counselors over the past 30 years looking for solutions and healing for several childhood traumas that have been life altering. It seemed like I was sentenced to drag around this "dead wood" for the rest of my life. Through the recommendation of my Bishop and Stake President I met with Dennis Parker. My understanding of hypnotherapy was extremely limited. I soon learned that this method is actually something that could heal and resolve my early traumas. These early childhood events had caused me to become "derailed" in my thought processes about myself and others. As I identified these issues, they began to fill in the puzzle pieces as to my personal belief system that dominated my thought processes and actions. It was an incredible experienced to understand how truth can set you free. The process of discovering how my thoughts generate feelings, our imagination will amplify these feelings, and then we act them out has been life changing for me. For the first time in my life I feel healthy, whole and ready to look forward down my path rather than behind. The mind chatter that dragged me down all day long is finally silenced. I have the power to keep myself living in the present and not the past. I have the power to be happy, loving, kind, empathetic, and generous any time I need to be. I have better clarity, purpose, and a healthy belief system of myself. I'm learning techniques that will reinforce my "Belief filter system" to protect myself from lies and misconceptions. In each therapy session I felt in complete control of my memories, and ability to navigate the process of healing them. This is the first time in my life that I actually feel free from my crippled perceptions of myself and others. I'm finally able to love with all my heart, because my heart no longer hurts. I completely recommend this type of therapy for anyone." Ward Relief Society President - P
I am really impressed with Dennis – his knowledge, presentation, and abilities. I felt he was compassionate, yet firm and was able to get through to me when I wouldn’t let others. This seminar is great and I am glad I took the opportunity to attend.
This was an amazing course. I have benefited greatly over the last 20 years from counseling, workshops, support groups, and plenty of reading; but this was the quickest most effective tool I have ever used.
The other very special person was our Hypnotherapist. He was calming, supportive, and gave me a look inside myself that has changed me forever. I know you could be skeptical. I was, but I’m a 53 year-old grandmother, business owner, mother, and busy woman, and I’m telling you this was fantastic! The weight and inches I have lost are only a part of what I have learned. Living better, healthier, and happier are your final rewards.